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Don’t just stay married.  Stay ENGAGED.  Enjoy an engaged relationship with your spouse.

By that I mean, build a conscious connection with your mate.  Stay PRESENT.

 

Relationships between married couples don’t work out automatically.  They require the daily application of real relationship wisdom.  They require consistently CONSCIOUS relationship work.

 

This does not have to take all the joy out of matrimony.  In fact, it may be the most powerful relationship tip for preserving AND enhancing marital joy and fulfillment.

 

Sooner or later, just about all married couples can use great date ideas.   Just going out to dinner or taking in a movie can get old. Going on a drive on a moonlit night can be special, but if you have young kids at home, that may not be easy to do, without dragging your children along. (Yippeee!)

 

Here is a better date night idea: No matter what you do or where you are, try being MORE aware of how you are ENGAGING with your mate by asking yourself:

1. Am I pressing the right buttons or the wrong buttons?

2. Am I being too serious?

3. Am I being too detached?

4. Am I even paying attention to how my mate feels?

 

Unhappy relationships, like happy relationships, don’t just happen.  They are made.

 

Not every “long distance romance” is defined by physical space!

 

You and your spouse can be in the same room and yet be in different worlds.

 

Love and marriage may start out together, but they may soon begindrifting apart.

 

But it’s never too late for a marriage makeover.  It’s never too late to make a new start.

 

You can fix your marriage by re-fixing your gaze upon your mate in the now.

 

If you begin to be more intentionally and consciously involved, you feed the spark of romantic loving attraction.

 

You may be sabotaging love without realizing it.

 

Love and relationship advice: To find better ways of engaging with your mate for a great relationship, reflect on how you handled your interactions

 

Were you harsher than you wish you had been?  Did you become more frustrated than you want to be?  Did you lash out verbally in a way that you regret?  How might you have been a more constructively engaged lover, friend or even business support for your mate?

 

Don’t beat yourself up over your shortcomings. Learn your relationship lesson! Lift yourself up by thinking about how you can do better for a better relationship.

 

Do this relationship work of reflection at the close of today for a more engaged and delightful committed relationship tomorrow.

 

In this blog, please share your thoughts and questions about engagement and marriage, and the results of your application of the love and relationship advice it presents.

 

Receive your FREE Relationship Advice through this blog. Simply ask Bob Lancer your question and receive his Lancer’s Answer in this blog.

Wisie Members: Please feel welcome to share your views in this blog regarding any of the Wisie videos, and to ask questions about how to make the most of them.