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Parenting your child to believe in herself unconditionally is the goal
One of the challenges you have no doubt faced, or will at some point face, in parenting your child, is teaching your child how to win AND how to lose.
One way that we prepare our children for winning WELL is by avoiding excessively praising our child’s admirable attributes or performance.
In parenting your child, if you praise too much, you disconnect the child from the positive character trait of wanting to do a good job for the pure satisfaction of doing so.
Being personally “recognized” as #1 then becomes all-important to the child, and the actual quality of work produced by the child becomes unimportant to the child.
Such children are prone to severe emotional breakdowns when they don’t come in first. Some go so far as to pursue underhanded means of being perceived as a winner, including cheating on tests and stealing trophies.
How they SEEM has come to matter more to them than who they actually ARE. This characterizes a child who has lost himself.
How can YOU tell when praising your child is actually good for him or her?
Are YOU too dependent upon receiving approval from others? Is your child? If so, what childhood experiences do you believe set you
and/or your child up for that weakness?
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Here are two quotes for children that we parents can also benefit from remembering, about what is most important about winning and losing:
“Real happiness comes from doing my best, even if no one sees the good that I have done.”
“Losing is really no big deal, because real happiness comes from just doing my best.”
Parenting your child to believe in herself unconditionally is the goal.
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