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A healthy relationship means that you function within it in a healthy way. When you relate with much nervousness, anxiety, frustration or other forms of emotional strain, it harms your health.

This does not necessarily make the relationship unhealthy, but rather, your way of relating.

Refrain from thinking, speaking and acting under stress to keep your love and relationships healthy.

When you feel in the grips of a stressful emotional reaction, here is a healthy way of dealing with it. Refrain from:

•       Thinking

•       Speaking

•       Acting

in ways that increase your stress.

Just allow your stressful feelings to be there.
Let them flow without holding onto them
and without holding them back.

You may need to take some time for solitude to permit yourself to fully feel how you feel without the burden of having to interact during that difficult time.

You will soon return to a more calm state of harmony and engage with others in a healthy way.

Just as, for a healthy relationship, you may not need to leave relationship – feeling dissatisfied in a relationship does not necessarily mean that you have to leave the relationship for fulfillment.  You can leave your dissatisfaction first.

Until we are conscious enough of our thoughts and feelings, we unconsciously project their cause outside ourselves.

And yet, our critical thoughts and feelings about others
are internal conditions that we give ourselves.

Examine your thoughts and feelings more closely to discover that no one “makes” you feel dissatisfied, and you can let dissatisfaction go.

If you habitually focus on what another does that bothers you, you hold onto your disturbed feelings and blame the other for how you feel.

So before criticizing or complaining about the other person, pay more attention to yourself to notice how you are giving yourself unpleasant experience.

From there you can release yourself for a healthy, happy relationship experience.

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