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Punishing a child does not produce higher child development.
Parents resort to punishment to “teach the child a lesson”, but punishing children really does not teach children anything, except to fear getting caught. It also teaches them to be punishing.
Punishment is educational only in the sense that it models punishing behavior. It really does NOT solve behavior problems. It actually worsens them.
Punishment is educational only in the sense that it models punishing behavior. It really does NOT solve behavior problems. It actually worsens them.
You make him feel badly about the way that YOU behave in reaction to his behavior.
Improving a child’s behavior is about child development.
Your aim is to DEVELOP a new behavior pattern.
To develop a new behavior pattern requires modeling that behavior pattern and then guiding the child in a step-by-step manner to demonstrate and practice it.
What are your thoughts about punishing children?
Have you actually found that punishing your child has ended one of his or her behavior problems?
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punishing and alternative ways of improving child behavior.
Punishing does not teach a child to feel remorse over the behavior
that you are punishing him or her for.
The child regrets only the punisher’s behavior, because that is all that hurts.
To improve your child’s behavior, think about the behavior that you want and turn that into a goal.
Then model the behavior you want, and lead the child, step-by-step in the process of engaging in that behavior.
For instance, if your child speaks disrespectfully, and you want to change that, listen more closely to the tone of your voice and the attitude you express when speaking.
Model more conscious, respectful speech.
Then, when your child speaks disrespectfully, guide her step-by-step in expressing what she wants to say in a more respectful way.
There are many more things you can do for the child development process leading to improved behavior.
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