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A sufficient quantity and quality of parental involvement is essential for a child’s healthy attitude and positive behavior.
A common cause of a child’s emotional and behavior problems stems from one or more of the following parental patterns:
- The parent spends too little time with the child
- The parent pays too little attention to the child
- The quality of time spent with the child is marred by parental stress and strain
To even know how much time your child needs with you, you need to pay close enough attention to your child.
Positive parental involvement means that you are consciously present, focused and sensitively aware of your child in the now
Perhaps a main reason why parents fall short in this area is because they don’t fully understand what it means to really spend time with a child. Simply being in the same general area with a child does not constitute true parental involvement.
Positive parental involvement means that you are consciously present, focused and sensitively aware of your child in the now. You are reading your child’s body language, voice tones and verbal communication (if your child is at a verbal stage) to recognize your child’s needs so you can respond accordingly.
Paying insufficient attention to a child allows the child to drift too far into troublesome emotional states and inappropriate behavior. The parent then involves himself with the child when the child’s behavior has become too outrageous to overlook, and then the involvement is characterized by harsh expressions of disapproval that sadden and antagonize the child, inciting even more problematic behavior.
Positive Parental Involvement Is More Pro-Active Than Reactive.
The parent observes the child before she drifts into trouble in order to recognize what the child needs to avoid emotional and behavior problems.
Positive parental involvement includes the parent’s ongoing dedication to the practice of the best possible self-control to avoid spoiling the quality of parental involvement with excessively critical, annoyed reactions that harm the parent-child relationship, make parenting more of a strain than it needs to be, and inevitably leads the child into more disturbing behavior.
As you bring positive parental involvement into your relationship with your child,
you and your child will both feel better and do better.
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